Well, I think it’s 100% safe to say that I am the introvert! This is very much me except the part about ‘They think before they speak’, because I don’t. I talk as soon as the thought enters my mind, sometimes it comes out a bit wrong but most of the time I’m glad I speak my mind. But as it also says in the article, these conversations are bound to happen when I’m around people I know well, in small groups or with just one close person. In larger groups I tend to be the quiet one..
What’s good to know about an introvert person is that he or she is not necessarily shy. I’m not shy, I’m very confident in most situations, but prefer alone time or smaller crowds.
It’s so interesting because I can really relate to the fear of small talk I get so stressed and bored at the same time, only a few people can keep up such a conversation to the point where I feel satisfied. I wish it could be different, believe me, sometimes I feel desperate for energy but rarely find it among people. It takes a very energetic and talkative person for me not to fall asleep, so instead I turn to solitude and creativity.
To me, the biggest problem and misunderstanding is this; in the article below it says that “the introvert person often feels drained after social situations rather than energized, because the introvert person gives rather than takes energy”, which is why I often turn down and don’t initiate social situations. Unfortunately it can come off as, well, both bitchy and rude which makes me sad because I’m none of those things. I’m just an energy saver 😉 It’s not because I don’t like the person or people it refers to. The misunderstanding is because I, as introvert, appears to be a very sociable person when I’m around people, which I am, but afterwards I feel drained, and therefore have to re-charge more than others (extroverts). And so that is why I often say no to things, not because I have something against someone!
Just prefer to hide sometimes…..
What I also believe to be a misunderstanding when it comes to this subject is that people probably think that introverts become nervous around other people and because of that they talk a lot and therefore drain themselves, instead of just listening. That’s not the case at all. At least not for me, I talk a lot because I’m simply a very talkative person but I listen just as much – I just don’t feed of the energy as extroverts apparently do.
I personally find spending time with quiet people very tiring, it might seem like introverts would prefer quiet people because, well, they are quiet and calm, but I really do prefer people who talk even more than I do. I think that’s why I connected well with Jonas in the beginning, he talked so much and that made me calm – but only in small doses hehe.
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.