I can't think of anything more unattractive than people who don't look out and care for themselves, like they have no pride and definitely no 'balls'. I can't understand why some people are called selfish for taking good care of themselves, when in the long run they also care for the people around them by doing so. I don't stand up for myself and make sure I feel and look good for myself only, I do it just as much for Aiden or anyone who loves me, as an example, because I wouldn't want him to grow up and spend time worrying about me. I want him to know that I'm fine, and it's my responsibility to make sure I am fine. Let's say I didn't speak to a therapist after my separation from his father, I would still suffer from panic attacks and anxiety. Something I'd never want to put myself or Aiden through. Still somehow, some people think that putting their own problems in focus is selfish! How?!
Anyway, it's sad and annoying to see people who think so little of themselves...how do they expect anyone else to care about them?!
Take care of yourself first. Just sayin'